Friday, June 21, 2019

The Interfaith Circle


In my current job, I can't post too many details. 

This week, I traveled for work to Kenya and went to a conference. Where it was and what it was about, I will not write here. It was a really good conference, filled with fascinating sessions and good people. My boss came, so there was good facetime with her too. She and I tried to and nearly did meet everyone there…all 300 people!

A favorite unexpected moment during the conference was being invited to a discussion on interfaith and human rights. This is something that greatly interests me. Religion can, rather unfortunately, amplify and instigate discrimination and even violence, using God as an excuse to hate rather than love all people. Having been raised a Christian in a loving and supportive environment accepting of all people and focused on social justice, I take personal affront at this form of “religion.” It is fiction. It is hate. And, it is not what Jesus Christ would do.

Instead of discussion, I arrived at a circle of chairs with a pitcher of water in the middle. Toni, someone I admire and who I am trying to find a way to support, was there and asked us to sit. There were about 15 of us who came – from across Africa, well, and me.

She started the meeting by settling us in to silence and asking us to take breaths and relax into a space of solitude and reflection. As someone who used to lean Quaker, this was at once a familiar and deeply spiritual practice for me.

The next hour was not a discussion, but a deeply personal sharing amongst us about faith, God and human rights. Everyone around the circle had been persecuted and hated for who they are – by their communities, their preachers or imams and even by their families. When a person finished sharing, we poured water on their hands to signify life and continuity and whatever else water signifies.

I thought about what I would share, in the face of these sad but resilient stories. I thought about my dad and wished he was here in that moment. My dad is the President of the Interfaith Network of Care, a group that volunteers to drive elderly and sick people around to run errands or fulfill other needs as a practice of their faith and love for God. I thought he would love to meet the people who were sitting with me and that he would love to pray with them. I thought he would be as eager as I felt in that moment to share with them a message of love and allyship.

I told this to those gathered in the circle. I apologized to them for the fear and hate spurred by evangelicals in my country. I shared that there are other messages too: of love and tolerance, of people like my dad and his interfaith network, and of his church. They love and accept them for who they are.

I wanted these brave people, who have been so excluded from their churches and mosques and temples, to know that. I hoped it might add even a drop of solace and peace to their lives as they travel back home.

Friday, June 14, 2019

Staycation, All I Ever Wanted


Today is the last day of a staycation that Hayden and I planned, because I had to burn some leave time before I officially start my "new" job and he has been traveling nonstop for work. Austin was in school for the week, which meant we were able to really get down to the business of cleaning and purging the house.

We cleaned out the closet in the middle room, which is now filled again, but less with Hayden’s childhood memorabilia (there’s still 2 boxes) and more with current-day suitcases. We went to IKEA to buy patio furniture and eat Swedish meatballs. I packed for Kenya and Hayden used his new power drill. My crowning staycation moment was replacing the bathroom air conditioner duct vent (say that 3 times fast), which used to drive me nuts because it collects dirt and is not easily cleaned. The new one is dark and will hide the dirt :)

Some staycation promises were not kept. I still have figured out an accessible exercise scheme. I didn’t read much. I still need to stealthily hack away at Bob and Doug’s Little Shop of Horrors backyard. But we were hardly sat still this entire week. I paused briefly to watch the US Women’s soccer team trounce Thailand (13-0), but then it was back to clutter removal. Mind you, the house is still cluttered, but a little more organized.

I’m off to Kenya tomorrow and as always have mixed emotions before I depart…irrational fear of flying, worries about Austin whose last day of school was today and who will have camp next week, etc. etc. But they will be fine and hopefully I will too.